As the name suggests, Boss Basics is about teaching you the fundamentals of skills that every man should know. This week, we focus on how to give a great massage.
Why is this important? Simply put, if you regularly give her a great massage, she’ll feel loved and cared for. And what man wouldn’t want that? Here’s how you can give her that mind-blowing massage she always wanted.
Do no harm
This is the first rule of massaging. See to it that you know what you shouldn’t do, especially on the spots that you shouldn’t press. These are namely:
- Throat and side of the neck.
- The notch behind the jawbone and under the ear.
- The eyeballs.
- The armpits.
- The upper inner arm.
- The ulnar notch of the elbow.
- The lower back.
- The abdomen.
- The groin area.
- The back of the knee.
To give a great massage, oils are a must
You must never give a massage without any kind of lubricant. There are two main reasons why:
- This prevents uncomfortable friction.
- Oil lets your hands glide easily on her skin.
When applying the oil, don’t simply pour it on her back. Put the oil on your hands, then rub them together to warm them up. The heat is relaxing.
Towels can be used to cover private areas, especially if she doesn’t want to disrobe. More importantly, you can use towels to cover areas you’ve already massaged to prevent body heat (generated by the massage) from escaping, which can make her feel chilly.
Another tip: to help make her more comfortable, place a folded towel or small pillow under her head.
Don’t pinch or grab
Pinching or grabbing during your massage can make her uncomfortable or worse: it could hurt. To avoid this, keep your fingers together and use your entire hand during the massage.
At the start of the massage, ask if the pressure you exert is enough. Ideally, she should feel some pressure, but it shouldn’t be painful. Make the necessary adjustments, based on her reaction.
Use your body weight
If she wants a deeper massage, lean in further and your body weight. Doing this will also keep your hands and arms from getting tired easily.
Remember: good massage isn’t about your grip; it’s your stance and use of gravity that’s crucial.
Don’t depend on your thumb
On a related note, try to minimize using your thumbs while massaging her. Overworking your thumbs will tire you out easily and can cause cramps. Instead, try using the heel of your hand, a loose fist, your forearm, or elbows.
You can’t give a great massage if it’s over too soon.
Thicker muscles need more pressure
Thicker muscles usually need more pressure, so get ready to push down on those supporting lower back muscles or the thick muscles that anchor the shoulder to the neck.
Likewise, ease up on thinner muscles and muscles that stretch over bone.
Start shallow to work deeper
Use large, broad, and soft motions to start the massage. This will let you loosen the surface of the muscle before going deeper. Doing a deep, heavy massage before warming up the muscle surface will make her feel uncomfortable.
Give a great massage by focusing on her
This is no time to let your thoughts wander. As much as you can, focus your entire attention on her, what she’s currently feeling, and how you can make her feel even better.