4) Be grateful. Sure, lots of people talk about gratitude but how often do we apply it to the events of our day? Things are crashing down at work, or our boss is angry, or our co-workers are rude, or our kids are misbehaving, or someone doesn’t love us as we’d like. Do these cause anger/anxiety/unhappiness, or can we be grateful? Drop the complaints and find a way to be grateful, no matter what. And then smile. This unbending habit can change your life.
5) Create stress-coping habits. Many times, when we are faced with stress, we have unhealthy responses like anger, feeling overwhelmed and withdrawing, eating junk food, drinking alcohol or taking drugs, shopping or otherwise buying stuff, going to time-wasting sites, procrastinating, and so on. Instead, we need healthy ways to cope with stress, which will come inevitably. When you notice stress, watch how you cope with it, and then replace any unhealthy coping habits with healthier ones. Healthy stress-coping and calmness-inducing habits include: drinking tea, exercise, yoga, meditation, massaging your own neck and shoulders, taking a walk, drinking some water, talking with someone you care about.
6) Single-task. I’ve written numerous times in the past about single-tasking vs. multitasking, but I think people multitask now more than ever. People text while on the train, while walking, while driving. They tweet and post to Facebook and Instagram, they email and read blogs and news, they watch videos while getting things done, they watch TV while eating, they plan their day while doing chores. This is a great way to cause a level of anxiety that runs through everything you do because you’re always worried you should be doing more, doing something else. What if, instead, you just did one thing, and learned to trust that you shouldn’t be doing anything else? It takes practice: just eat. Just wash your bowl, walk, talk to someone, or read one article or book without switching. Just write or do your email one at a time until your inbox is empty. You’ll learn that there is peace and calmness in just doing one thing and letting go of everything else.
7) Reduce noise. Our lives are filled with all kinds of noise — visual clutter, notifications, social media, news, all the things we need to read. And truthfully, none of it is necessary. Reduce all these things and more, and create some space, some quiet, in your life.